Hey all,

I’m 2 months full time into a startup and there’s just no other way to say it: my wife hates it. Hates that I don’t have an income, that I’m taking this risk, that I’ll need to spend some $$, etc.

That said, I already made a plan with her that outlines timeline and budget needed to build this thing, but it hasn’t helped (seemingly).

Has anyone experienced something similar, and how did you resolve it? It’s so toxic I’ve made the conscious decision to stop talking to her about it to protect myself, and I certainly don’t want things to get worse.

Thanks in advance.

  • VegasPay@alien.topBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    I’ve experienced in relationships that it doesn’t matter if it is budgeting for a startup or if it is saving for retirement or if it budgeting for college courses or if it is budgeting to pay the electricity bill on the day the bills are due to be paid.

    In some relationships with a narcissist, all of the above is considered to NOT be paying the price that she is worth it for everybody around her to pay. Especially you.

    I’d try to identify if she believes you are spending “her” money and “her” time. Unfortunately, the was a culture created by content for only women to watch on TV and the internet.

    If it is just simply a matter of her expectations for you to “pay the price that she is worth it for you to pay” then you might be in a situation that is not very much unlike what a pimp does to his prostitututes. If she is a vampire, then you should be able to figure it out.