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Cake day: October 28th, 2023

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  • ^ this.

    I made low 6 figures when I was 15. That deluded me into thinking that grind/hustle culture was the way, and that I should sacrifice nearly all forms of entertainment and life experience until my 30s in exchange for working on gigs and side businesses.

    Now I’m in my late twenties. On occasion I did travel, meet people, went out (concerts, bars/clubs, etc.), just to get it out of my system - and while it wasn’t necessarily for me - there’s something special about it because it’s something you can really only do in your 20s without feeling out of place (nobody wants to be that guy in their 40s at the club).

    I definitely wish I did more of it - especially travel. Nothing beats travel.

    I will say that the other experiences, like getting drunk, partying, clubbing/bars, concerts, definitely felt shallow and wasn’t fulfilling for me. But you want to at least do it a few times to have that in your memories, like you see in the movie Project X.

    I know people are saying date as much as you can, and while I didn’t do that, the few times I did date… was rough. Young women in their 20s are hard to have a genuine connection with. They’re often very addicted to social media or just trying to do what all the ‘other’ girls do. So that’s a mixed bag. And be careful dating a self-abosrbed, untrustworthy or narcissistic girl - she’ll only cause you headaches. Doesn’t matter how hot she is. But you learn a lot about what you want in women. And seeing the relationships that many other guys in their early 20s had with women their age, let’s just say I was not envious.

    Was the tradeoff of life experiences for work worth it? Yes and no. I’ve still built tons of business skills which have helped me in my career and will help me begin my soon-to-launch business, but I also feel like my 20s were a blur of just heads down and work - and that i could have cut down my work time by 30-40%.

    It’s also possible that if i got too much into the ‘have fun’ mindset, that it would have derailed my momentum. Who knows.

    To OP, try networking and going to conferences. I wish I did more of that. Also, spend time with your loved ones, friends, get into a fitness routine NOW, go out and date a few girls (but be careful), learn how women & dating work by reading about it online, have fun, travel, explore … I also wish I did more things like sporting events or marathons, sporting events/finals, etc.

    and for things like concerts/bars/clubs… even if it’s only once or twice, at least you won’t have any regrets not doing it. Just wasn’t for me though unless you’re really into that and not a homebody.