If you were in your early twenties and could do it all again what direction would you go? What do you wish you had done earlier? What advice do you wish you had gotten? What would you tell your younger self?
If you were in your early twenties and could do it all again what direction would you go? What do you wish you had done earlier? What advice do you wish you had gotten? What would you tell your younger self?
Experience life. Go out, meet people, network, travel.
And either stay single or get a Partner
Exactly. Even on this grind set- which I love and appreciate- I’ve had times blow up in my face because I put all my eggs in one basket. Not saying you should just hang out with friends all day, but definitely make time to be friendly with your friends, experience life (travel, try new things), explore yourself (try new hairstyles, tattoos, etc), and try out different hobbies, passions, and potential careers. There’s a lot of unknown that if you fumble over it you may find you don’t even really need a heavy grind set to attain your dream life.
^ this.
I made low 6 figures when I was 15. That deluded me into thinking that grind/hustle culture was the way, and that I should sacrifice nearly all forms of entertainment and life experience until my 30s in exchange for working on gigs and side businesses.
Now I’m in my late twenties. On occasion I did travel, meet people, went out (concerts, bars/clubs, etc.), just to get it out of my system - and while it wasn’t necessarily for me - there’s something special about it because it’s something you can really only do in your 20s without feeling out of place (nobody wants to be that guy in their 40s at the club).
I definitely wish I did more of it - especially travel. Nothing beats travel.
I will say that the other experiences, like getting drunk, partying, clubbing/bars, concerts, definitely felt shallow and wasn’t fulfilling for me. But you want to at least do it a few times to have that in your memories, like you see in the movie Project X.
I know people are saying date as much as you can, and while I didn’t do that, the few times I did date… was rough. Young women in their 20s are hard to have a genuine connection with. They’re often very addicted to social media or just trying to do what all the ‘other’ girls do. So that’s a mixed bag. And be careful dating a self-abosrbed, untrustworthy or narcissistic girl - she’ll only cause you headaches. Doesn’t matter how hot she is. But you learn a lot about what you want in women. And seeing the relationships that many other guys in their early 20s had with women their age, let’s just say I was not envious.
Was the tradeoff of life experiences for work worth it? Yes and no. I’ve still built tons of business skills which have helped me in my career and will help me begin my soon-to-launch business, but I also feel like my 20s were a blur of just heads down and work - and that i could have cut down my work time by 30-40%.
It’s also possible that if i got too much into the ‘have fun’ mindset, that it would have derailed my momentum. Who knows.
To OP, try networking and going to conferences. I wish I did more of that. Also, spend time with your loved ones, friends, get into a fitness routine NOW, go out and date a few girls (but be careful), learn how women & dating work by reading about it online, have fun, travel, explore … I also wish I did more things like sporting events or marathons, sporting events/finals, etc.
and for things like concerts/bars/clubs… even if it’s only once or twice, at least you won’t have any regrets not doing it. Just wasn’t for me though unless you’re really into that and not a homebody.
you are damn amazing for starting so young and being this wise this young, i am 19 yo but i just started my entreprenarial journey and as you said the more you are into it the clearer its get that its the right thing to do, i am gettig to know a lot of amazing people in online, and successful as well, its has been only a month now but all i can say is i couldnt be more happy of discovering myself and exploring my interests , i am now considering to get a small budget of 300$ and quit my 9 to 5 job to get completely into it! any advices, tips or information would be very helpful!, such as networking groups, mentors, important courses to take, subject and topics to learn about (eg: sales, economics, marketing?)
But see mate, if we want something then some other thing should be sacrificed right. So your sacrificed but still managed to have some fun in twenties and now you are having a financial stability. So your hustle was worth it right. Nwo you have your thirties and forties to enjoy.
^ this There’s been times I went to a rave because I was always so envious of being “normal.” My brain was like a dog that wouldn’t let go of a bone. I went to one and it was whatever- but I’m glad I got it out of me. Otherwise it would’ve been a constant nagging “but what if I went to it.” I’m butt ugly, so dating’s not really my thing, but I’m still glad I tried to ask out girls and get rejected because again, you can delude yourself with thinking what if. Even now, I still do things younger me couldn’t do because I’m realizing that balance is necessary; but if you have an inkling to do something just do it. Don’t get lost, keep control and your main focus down, but just try it. You never know what experience you can create or what experience you can be glad you got out of your system