So like the title says, I have creative ideas and always try to include my wife in discussions, but all she ever brings to the table is problems and negativity when we discuss things. She thinks she’s being “pragmatic” but it’s tremendously disheartening and the problems she imagines are always the absolute worst of the worst case scenarios. Everything I’ve ever read or watched when it comes to starting businesses is, just start and figure out the problems later. I’m well aware of the potential for difficulties in any endeavor, but tend to believe in myself and my ability to adapt and overcome. Has anyone else experienced this? How did you find middle ground, if at all?

  • fcarriedos@alien.topBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    Women, in general, tend to seek stability more than anything else, so it is totally normal.

    A couple of tips:

    • To be realistic, you should always consider the worst-case scenario angle, so you can consider her an unexpected-situation-generator.
    • You shouldn’t be looking for validation but tough love. She is useful like that too!
    • It is good that she is open about her concerns, so at least you see things coming, and you can “take the temperature” of the situation. My ex-girlfriend became resentful overnight, after some months of leaving my job (even having a 2 year runway). They can’t help it…

    Anyways, try to see the silver linings and don’t let her down (much).