So like the title says, I have creative ideas and always try to include my wife in discussions, but all she ever brings to the table is problems and negativity when we discuss things. She thinks she’s being “pragmatic” but it’s tremendously disheartening and the problems she imagines are always the absolute worst of the worst case scenarios. Everything I’ve ever read or watched when it comes to starting businesses is, just start and figure out the problems later. I’m well aware of the potential for difficulties in any endeavor, but tend to believe in myself and my ability to adapt and overcome. Has anyone else experienced this? How did you find middle ground, if at all?
Most of the time it’s just differences in cognitive processing. She doesn’t mean any harm and is most likely is only wired through nature and nurture to see life and problem solving through different lens. I would encourage you to take an MBTI test with her to find out her cognitive style and cater to it for the most productive discussions. You both would indeed benefit from it. From what I’ve read you strike me as an ENTP and she strikes me as an ISTJ so read about the ISTJ type (once verified) and tailor your pitch to how she would best absorb it.