So like the title says, I have creative ideas and always try to include my wife in discussions, but all she ever brings to the table is problems and negativity when we discuss things. She thinks she’s being “pragmatic” but it’s tremendously disheartening and the problems she imagines are always the absolute worst of the worst case scenarios. Everything I’ve ever read or watched when it comes to starting businesses is, just start and figure out the problems later. I’m well aware of the potential for difficulties in any endeavor, but tend to believe in myself and my ability to adapt and overcome. Has anyone else experienced this? How did you find middle ground, if at all?
My wife has also behaved in this way, but often it’s because she doesn’t have the same level of acceptance of risk or the same desire to invest, for example. One day I started out on my own, and when she realised that I was “all-in” for real, she helped me a lot and was supportive. Now, she allows me to ask myself questions that I don’t ask myself with my go-getter nature, she allows me to take a step back, but sometimes I also decide in good conscience not to follow her warnings… It’s all about listening and learning, but sometimes it’s also about taking the risk alone !
Take the risk alone and share the profit, nice marriage you have there