I have a bit of a conundrum. I have had an employee for close to 2 and a half years. He had been what any boss could want in an employee. He has been on top of everything. He has done everything I ask him to and then some. This employee is also a schizophrenic and has a slew of other mental health problems. I knew this going in as we are also friends and he lives on my property,Friends until recently. I’m unsure what has happened but as of late his mental health has been rapidly declining. Such as he use to show up at the store early, clean without being asked, give me contact info for vendors. Now the only things I have him do are clean and file. All the thing he use to do before, he started not doing or doing a very poor job. He also has completely made it to where I had to redo inventory because it was so wrong. I have lost money sleep clients and sanity because of this drastic change. But one of the reasons that I hired him was because not alot of people would because of mental heath issues. I’m now at a point that I understand that people have challenges and I feel guilty at the thought of firing him because where else will he go. I’m the only job in the area that would hire him give him the breaks he needs and be as patience as I have been. And I know this for a fact I’m the only job he’s had that has accommodated him. I’m at a place where I have given him several chances to fix and adjust and he has not done so consistently. He does better for a few days or matey even a few days but always ends up back in the same place. So now I’m in this place where he’s unpleasant to be around and I don’t know if I would be doing the right thing by firing him. I don’t what to be unethical or a shitty person by firing him. Would I be the asshole if I fired him?

  • drjammus@alien.topB
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    10 months ago

    If he stays, he probably will get worse.
    If you let him go, he will probaby get worse.
    Mental health isnt something a “normal” person usually can understand. If you want to go the friend route, google local mental health clinic nearby, print the location and contact details out. Then have the “boss” talk with him, like, this Friday is your last day. Have the printout of help ready to give him. text it to him as well, as he likely will loose the printout.

    None of us can save people until they are ready to be saved. This doesnt mean we dont “try” however it also means we have loving but firm boundaries of our own.

    “he says he’s fine and denies any of it…” he cant change until he sees that this thought process is self-defeating and is denial (he might feel safe as he is, familier etc), and he has to also start to believe there is a “better” life he can live. Im sorry you are both in this situation.