I love this honest and sincere response. I feel like it’s common to crave independence but not know which path to pursue to achieve it. A lot of people inevitably get stuck here in paralysis analysis. And of course there is a fear that if I start looking, it’s possible you’ll never find anything - like one of those treasure hunters who dies of old age before they can find what they were after. And so, with that fear in mind, it’s easy to think you should just stick to the 9-5 grind because there is some “safety” in that.
Well, it turns out those jobs aren’t safe and there are plenty of people who were laid off that can attest to that. There is NO safe path - scary thought but it’s real.
What kinds of books / people / ideas helped you sort things out? And if you’re still on the quest - that’s great too. Please share your insights.
Agree on the amount of time and money you will spend. How you spend the time should be kept to yourself. Don’t share specifics of your project unless it’s with people you know will be supportive. Try numerous things. Once something catches, re-involve her as it will require more of a time / money commitment.
All that being said, she could be right. Your ideas might not be well thought-out. Either way, it’s clear you need some space to make your own successes / mistakes. If she’s right, you’ll learn for yourself.