I run a modestly successful small gardening business. It took me a year to really get it going properly. For context im in my 30s and have worked in really demanding jobs to get into a position to start something.
Ever since I went full-time my sibling has had this attitude like I just won the lottery and wont share. Other people have also started acting like im driving around in a RollsRoyce with a monocle, I don’t really get it.
I give my sibling left over gardening supplies and i’ve sub contracted another friend who lost their job. Trying to share my success when I can. Whats with the hostility? Have other people experienced this kind of thing?
My go to when friends (especially in my industry) ask how my business is going.
“It’s alright, but I won’t lie, most days I’m envious of where you are.”
It’s not entirely a lie as some days I do miss the days of a steady paycheck, less responsibility, and not having to make every decision. But more importantly, most people don’t want to hear about how awesome your life is because they usually hate where they are. So for you to say you’re envious of them, it not only does slates any jealously but makes them feel slightly grateful for the current position they have.
I need as many allies in my industry as I can get so I’m happy to put my ego aside and down play it if it prevents envy or jealousy.
I’ve been using a similar tactic for other experienced gardeners who aren’t qualified. I say ‘wish there was a book that would give me 30 years experience!’ not entirely untrue either.